The Destruction of youth: Pornography

                 Choose your master "God or Pornography"

                                       "This post is specifically for parents with youth"


OK, I think it is a safe bet to say that most men that read this christian or not have at one point or another viewed pornography. Unfortunately the truth in the world is that over 90% of males view pornography and one in three people that visit a pornographic site is a female. This means 40% of women also have done this. So as a parent what can you do to stop such things from happening, or fix it after it has happened? Well truth be told maybe it started out with your child at a young age, viewing something inappropriate and being curious and that curiosity develops into a real problem real fast. I can guarantee you that if you have three children in their teens with access to a computer there is a huge chance one of them has viewed pornography at least once. So whats the best thing to do? Well first off you need to explain to your children about the internet at a younger age. If they are under 10 make sure to be with them, there are so many pop ups and things that you can bump into online that can result in graphic images not just pornographic but violent. When they hit there teen years you should explain to them (not vividly) about the dangers of viewing pornography. Tell them that in the bible Jesus says in Matthew 5:28 "But I say unto you, That whosoever looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart." This means as an married person it counts as adultery and as a non married person its fornication. I know its a scary thought but the bible urges us to be sexually pure. "Everyone lies, has stolen, has been angry, has dishonored their parents, has been violent and has done so many other things, we dont learn to do these things we just "do" them because its in our evil nature, but we choose to view pornography for the first time, we choose to cheat, or to fornicate, we have the opportunity and by then in our lives the maturity to make the decision of "staying pure or falling into sin"

If your child confesses to viewing pornography or if you have caught them viewing pornography the best way to handle it is to first of all, stay calm, if you get angry the child will only be defensive but if you calmly sit them down and have a gentle talk then they will open up and you can explain to them what they are doing wrong
1. DON'T YELL don't even raise your voice or look angry if you do it might make your child defensive and unwilling to communicate. If you stay calm this will make your child comfortable enough to ask your help in overcoming their problem and more open to correction.
2. Ask them why they did it, "The reason here is to get them to realize there isnt a logical reason for what they did and they will be less likely to argue with you about it". (If they argue at the bottom of the page there is a segment for what to say).
3. Tell them that you want to help them not to ever do it again, "Let them know you want to help them overcome the temptation and issue".
4. Tell them that they have not only sinned against God, but have damaged your trust with you (allowing them to be alone on the computer) and it will be a process of renewing your trust and asking God for forgiveness and help.
5 Ask them if they want to talk to a youth pastor or elder (if not dont push them just make sure you make the time to help them)
6. If your child does want help make sure to find someone who they are comfortable talking with.
7. Install a program on the computer to block such sites. One good one is K9 web protection and can be customized for your need (plus its free).
8. last but FAR from least pray with your child a few things you should tell your child that needs to be in the prayer of a person who is sorry and wants to change.

The first part of the prayer

A. Forgiveness (Even if your child is saved and baptized God wants to here specific forgiveness for this area of downfall.)
B. Changing of the heart (this will be hard for your child and you should help them as much as you can)

The second part of the prayer should be a sacrifice you will make to God or better yet...

Dedicate to God (what I mean by this is that all that time that was wasted on Pornography should be estimated lets say it was 1 hour a day then for the next 90 days the child has to spend 1 hour a day for God... Preferably memorizing scripture (you can read pages of the bible and not pay attention to it or let it go in one ear out out the other) but memorizing enables you to think about a passage over, and over, and over again, allowing you to learn. If your child already spends an hour a day then they still have to make this commitment. If they wine tell them that (Gods loves you and wants you to spend time with him more than you have ever wanted to view pornography, and you still chose it over him, so you need to make it up to him and show him that you love him and you want to change) Make sure to make this commitment with your child if you are able.

After all is said and done make a system for your child to follow for example
Every morning I do my daily bible reading.
Everyday at 3:00 I spend 1 hour memorizing scripture/devotional/youthgroup/etc (whatever your child needs to get over this problem.
Every morning, afternoon and night pray should consist of asking God for strength and power to overcome any temptations that the devil will throw at you.
After the end of the week sit down quietly with your child and check up on them (have they done there bible reading/dedication time have they fallen into the temptation again. (if so you may need to talk to a youth pastor or eliminate the computer for a large period of time until your child can have an opportunity to change overtime.) and if they have done everything and you see change embrace your child and compliment them. (believe me nothing to them will mean more than hearing their parents say they are proud of their good work and think they are doing a wonderful job.)

If your child argues...

If your child argues you still should remain calm but show them the seriousness of the situation....

1. if your child says "people have sexual need/everyone does it/its a biological need, explain to them that (God meant such things for marriage (not pornography but you see where I am going) and you dont have a "need" until the first time you commit the act (like a drug humans dont have sexual "needs" per say until the first time such a thing is done) after that the person develops a sexual appetite (its a beautiful thing the way God made it so people dont have a sexual desire until their after their marriage) but unfortunately we have twisted it and with sex outside of marriage and pornography we have these desires when they should not have developed yet.

2. Ask your child if they want to get married "if they answer yes" then tell them that if this continues you are doing nothing but setting up for failure in your marriage, by viewing pornography you get a warped view of sex and when you get married the person who gets stuck with your problem is your spouse.

3. Tell your child that pornography is abusive "which it is" and destroys people lives and by watching it you are supporting and taking pleasure in seeing people being abused and doing horrible acts of sin for money and you are not only condoling it but enjoying it and supporting it. (Again Jesus says in Matthew 6:24 No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon. See you cant view pornography and serve God its impossible you cant grow in Christ and serve God while watching and enjoying pornography which gets me to my last point

4. Choose the path you want to take the live you want to live tell your child that right now they have to choose "God or porn" as bad as it sounds this is the ultimate choice either you choose God give up porn ask for forgivness and change your heart, or choose porn "it will seem like a lot of fun" but years from now if you want to get married, work in the ministry, have a family. You have a big problem which will lead to other sadness, destruction and lack of love for God.

Choose your master and choose it now.... And saying not now is the same as saying no God.



Once again leave any questions or a subject you think should be talked about next. Also what do you think is the best way to stop the problem before it happens??? Anyone that would like to debate in the comments go ahead "If you dont agree with me please let me know I love hearing other Christians ideas and their convictions."


24, Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, 25 To the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen.

The Christians Pride, The Christians Problem.

I will start off with a controversial issue in the life of in my experience a lot of Christians. I have realized that a lot of them. The issue of “hate the sin but love the sinner". God dosent want us to treat other people different because of their sin. We to have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. It is by Gods glory and love that Jesus died on the cross for our sins. So why do some Christians have a problem talking with other certain types of sinners? Let’s take homosexuals for example, I have heard stories of pastors and preachers talking about how they won’t talk to, relate with or come near a homosexual person. He told a story of a time he went to a restraint and a homosexual man was at the counter “I won’t let a homosexual man make my sandwich” is what he said. The bible says that homosexuality is a sin, and I believe that its written multiple times in the bible one example is (Leviticus 18:22 Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is an abomination). “MY” belief. But if I meet a man or woman that is homosexual will I be compelled to treat them any different than anyone else? NO, it might make you a little uncomfortable, but why would I treat them differently than anyone else, what gives me that right?

     Having this attitude towards homosexuals, drug users and/or criminals is not only a lack of love, but also shows how proud you have become. We are proud in thinking we are forgiven our sins, and live better and “holier” lives that these people. This attitude draws God away from us rather than near us. God loves everyone and treated you know different. Just because you think that since you read your bible every day, pray, teach in the Church does not mean you have the right to judge other people whom you deem “less holy than you” or as "horrible" sinners remember you were once a "horrible" sinner to, no way of getting around that fact I dont care who you are, and you still do sin.  Also remember that you did not save yourself or change your own heart but it was God, and if this is your attitude towards sinners you need to pray for more change.Some of you might say (What if the person has a history of violence or rape) I am not saying that you should not be cautious around these people if they have a history of violence, rape or inappropriate behavior. (In that case be cautious where you are, how many people are present, not to go anywhere alone and keep the conversation wholesome and appropriate.) If you are a young lady and the person does has a committed a violent crime or rape and are trying to talk to you than yes you should be VERY cautious and avoid being along at all costs “but be respectful.”)  So some of you may be saying, “well I don’t want these people to influence me or my children so why would I risk talking with them.” well then first of all just like before be careful where you talk and make sure there are plenty of people, but just because you talk with someone that has a sinful history doesn't mean you will become like them. And if they do then your problem isn't the person it’s you. The bible wants us to "be in the world but not part of it", in other words you live in this world and pursue (education, status, jobs, friend relationships, etc) BUT never become a part of it in the sense that you do what everyone else is doing, which will not be what God wants you to do. Don’t go to the inappropriate movies or watch the inappropriate shows with friend or that friends are watching , or go to bars/clubs other friends go to. But rather politely turn them down by saying something like “Due to religious convictions I am afraid I am unable to join you. I am sorry but I just don’t feel like this is something I should do.” ORRRRR you could say something like “PFFFFFT You guys going to go see/go there, you disgust me, you see I am a Christian and I can’t do that because its evil and you will go to hell for it”….. Do you see the difference in the way someone will response to those statements. Christians have lost respect, humility and tact, when dealing with these things and in turn have caused the world to see Christians as “self-righteous, arrogant, rude, tactless and jerks”. But the God says in the bible that we are acting SO differently than we do and that we need to change our hearts and remove this pride before God stops communing with us because of our self-pride.  If you want to develop a closer relationship with God and have your beliefs better accepted by man so you can make a greater impact in their lives for God, then pray to go for help in this issue and for you pride fullness, lack of love and for him to humble, and change your heart. Ezekiel 36:26 A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh.

Feel free to comment if you agree/disagree or if you would like to add something or recommend a new topic. 

Jude:1 25-26
Now unto him who is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, To the only wise God our Savior, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and forever. Amen.

Introductory post to The Anonymous Christian Soldier Blog.

To start of my name will not be mentioned. This is not for theatrics sake but for the sake of getting a message through anonymously (no face or name will be associated) and hopefully touching the lives of fellow/future Christians. I plan to write posts according to situations I see arise through my eyes in this world and things that I see as becoming a problem, in the church, in the world and in the lives of fellow believers. Though I will be using scripture to back up what I believe, of course other Christians will not agree with my beliefs. But that happens a lot, not all Christians will have the same convictions in small things (movies, songs, shows, social media, dress, etc) But as long as you are not viewing, listening to or wearing something (revealing, sensual, ungodly, or something that promotes ungodly behavior) than its OK if you don't agree with other Christians on the subject. People convictions will always be respected here. So please feel free to comment. But be respectful and mindful to other people when you comment. Comments containing, verbal abuse, swearing, disrespectful towards other commenters or spam will be removed from the blog.

Have a great week and stay strong for the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ.


Jude:1 25-26
Now unto him who is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, To the only wise God our Savior, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and forever. Amen.